How to Create More Romance in your Relationship

By Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches

As Relationship Coaches, one of the biggest relationship questions we get is how to create more romance in intimate relationships. What typically happens in relationships is that during the "honeymoon" period, both people are on their best behavior and do little and big things to keep the relationship growing, especially in the area of romance . They pay attention to the relationship and usually give it their all.

After the "honeymoon" period and the "newness" of being together wears off, both people usually start taking each other for granted and especially the area of romance suffers. When children arrive, romance usually gets placed on the back burner and there never seems to be enough time for anything, let alone a romantic evening.

Most relationship advice says to set aside time and make a conscious effort to bring romance back into a relationship. What we have found is that you can suggest all of the love advice you can but if the two people have over-scheduled and committed their lives to such an extent that there isn't time or the energy to do anything about it, romance just doesn't happen. Even if the two people consider themselves soul mates when they came together and think that they have a soul mate relationship, all that close feeling may get lost as the years go by.

There can many challenges that keep couples from being more romantic and having more romance in their life. Some people have relationship trust issues. Other people are jealous, have jealousy issues and want to overcome jealousy . They may even need to heal a broken heart that still exists from previous marriages or relationships that didn't work out.

In many cases, infidelity and affairs happen and come between the two people. Because of these issues, many couples face break ups. Divorce is very commonplace today and the numbers of people in a second marriage are definitely on the rise.

So how can you prevent this from happening to your relationship? We suggest that you do something every day to keep romance and connection alive and well.

One way is to create ways for having more intimacy and closer and more connected love making . Romance and love making can mean learning how to open yourself to the other person and how to create a deeper and more intense connection between the two of you.

Even though it may not seem logical, looking at creating more romance in your relationship can be a personal growth issue and can enhance your happiness.

Even if you are just dating and wanting dating tips on how to create more romance, begin now to become more conscious and set it as your intention to do something each day to bring it into your relationship. It might be something as simple as taking 10 minutes a day to look in each other's eyes and keep your attention on your partner.

Romance certainly doesn't have to be elaborate. What we've found is that it's is more about intention and attention rather than what you do. It's more about opening your heart to the other person rather than the romantic "things" you might do.

When you start looking at romance as something that brings excitement into the relationship and is an outward sign of the love you feel for your partner, it will be effortless to be romantic.

No matter what relationship advice you get from other people, make sure that you start today to create a more romance in your relationship.

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